Don’t Bully the Bully: National Youth Speaker Tyler Gregory Shares the Right Way To Approach A Cyber Bully

| January 6, 2014 | 1 Comment

No Cyber Bully


The amount of teens who will take a stand against a bully online, from what I have been seeing, is increasing. Unfortunately, a lot of us go about dealing with an Internet Bully the wrong way. It is common to see someone “stand up” to a bully by calling the bully names and pointing out that they are a bad person. Oftentimes, this tactic will end up causing more drama in which more and more people get involved. From many past experiences, here is what I have found to work.

Whenever I see someone being not so nice on the Internet, first and foremost, I message him or her in private.  What I have to say to this person should not be public for everyone to see, I don’t want to call a bully out in front of anyone, no matter how mean that person is, public embarrassment is not pleasant and I am not going to put anyone through that. In the private message I am completely kind and try to make the bully think about things. Maybe the person they were bullying is being abused by their parents, maybe someone in their family is dying, maybe they are having personal issues. We don’t know what the people around us go through on a day-to-day basis. I know when I was going through a dark period of depression NO ONE knew and some person on the Internet saying rude things to me, just may have been the one thing to push me over the edge.

After I try to make them realize the person on the receiving end of the cyberbullying is, in fact, a person, I suggest call to action options. Oftentimes, an apology is due and it shows true character for a person to admit that they were wrong about something and apologize. I often suggest that the person delete their comments or the status. When the bully’s classmates look back on their high school career, that bully should not want to be known as the person who made life miserable for everyone else.

I believe that standing up should not just be about addressing the bully, but also reaching out to the victim. When a student gets bullied, they feel alone and isolated, so reaching out with a private message lets the victim know that you are there for them if they want to talk to you, and could often be very helpful. When I reach out to victims, I also encourage them to block the bullies on social media if things get out of control. Students can also even block a bully’s cell phone number from receiving texts or phone calls. When a bully is mean to someone else, they want to get a reaction. Any reaction. If you react sad, then the bully should feel like their job is done, and even if you act mad and fire back with comments, bullies love that! Blocking them and ignoring it the best thing one can do and is always the sure way to prevent it from happening because you don’t give the bully what they want. If you feel that you have to reply, don’t fire back with insults or angry remarks. There is a difference between standing up for yourself and bullying the bully. You don’t have to be mean to defend yourself.

I think that it is amazing that students are starting to stand up for each other and show empathy. If we go about it the right way, we can see a shift in perspective because after all, everyone is human and deserves to be treated kind, yes, even bullies.

By:  Tyler Gregory

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  1. Interesting topic! I agree with you that sending a private message is the best way to go. Sadly bullies for the most part just bully on! And what is more shocking to me is when adults bully online! Thanks for sharing. Best Regards, Wendy *Visiting from Sits*

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