Just recently, I sat in the passenger seat of our van, while my oldest son drove me around for the very first time. It was a big moment, for both of us. I was so nervous but I tried to act cool. Even though I still have very young children, it was the first time I had experienced any twinge of what it might be like to go through “empty-nest” one day. My kids are growing up. This is the biggest responsibility my teen ever had in his life. Yet, I know it’s only the first of many. He’ll go on to live his (hopefully happy) life, and so will the rest of my children. It reminded me that the husband I’ve barely had a chance to speak to since last Thursday will be the only one left at home with me one day. It seems far away, but looking at my teen as he got behind the wheel, I was reminded just how quickly the time passes. My oldest is almost sixteen-years-old. I’m so aware of making sure I enjoy each moment I have with my children, but it’s easy to forget to do the same with my husband. It’s time for another Date Night!
Honestly, I have a VERY hard time talking about intimacy. I’m all kinds of awkward on date night. I have some friends who are NOT. They know who they are. My lady friends who have NO problem talking about intimacy make fun of me for being so…shy. My close girlfriends have been making fun of me forever. They say things just to shock me. The more kids I had, the more they laughed at me. I get it. I’m a “shy wife” with five kids. I can see the humor.
Well, I have a plan for my upcoming date night that I think will be a great way to approach every date night. I like to keep the intimate details, intimate, but I’m happy to share my tips.
1. Start the day off right, with some Me-Time.
When your day starts off the wrong way, it usually ends the wrong way, too! Moms, am I right or am I right? So, make a special point of taking some time just for you before whatever chaos you’re used to managing in the morning. A good cup of coffee is one of my favorite ways to get in a few minutes of me-time.
2. Let music transcend you from Mommy to Mamasita.
Get in the mood! It’s hard to get out off mommy-mode. Don’t be that wife that has to call 28 times to check in on the kids during the first hour of date night. You won’t be less of a mother if you focus on your date night. You deserve this! Take down that bun. Let out that ponytail. Go from Mommy to Mamasita. You’ve still got it in you! Play your favorite jams and keep the spirit of date night going throughout the day, so you’ll really enjoy your evening out (or just at home). Just keep that date night spirit and energy going. Don’t be “too tired” for date night. Be too tired to wash the dishes, fold clothes, and even to cook dinner, but don’t ditch date night. It’s just going to be you and him, one day.
3. There should be romance in the air. Can you smell it?
I just love the natural fragrances of eucalyptus! Get your favorite romantic scents in the air to help keep you focused on your date night!
4. Shave. Seriously, shave! Be soft enough to caress.
Take a bubble bath. Moisturize your skin. Relax. Indulge. Shave. Shower. While you’re at it, double check those nails!
5. Have kissable lips.
It’s important to look good, but be careful with that lipstick, ladies! It’s okay to wear bold colors, but make sure to use a lipstick that stays on you and doesn’t get all over him. A little kiss over dinner, in the car, while walking through the parking lot, and all those “just because” moments get lost when you’re worried about smearing your lipstick.
6. Forget about the “Little Black Dress.” It’s all about the “Little Black Shoe”
7. Relax. Try Something New.
Now that you’re feeling good, looking good, and are ready for your date night, don’t be afraid to try something new! K-Y® LOVE Sensuality Pleasure Gel -or- K-Y® LOVE Passion Pleasure Gel is perfect for helping couples have better intimate experiences for better emotional connection.
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Check out these Intimacy Tips with Dr. Laura Berman for Busy Parents
What is your best date night tip? Share with us in the comments!