What does a 24/7 Modern Mom™ do all day?
Welcome to my Secret Life. I’m a high-roller! It’s not cool, like it sounds. I mean, in my life, the stakes are high, every day! I live a life that is impossible to keep up with. I know that. Yet, I can’t give up on any of it. There are musts: Attend to the children’s basic needs, meet work deadlines (not always) and put a bra on, at least at some point during the day.
I organize and plan and most of it blows up in my face. I get up every day. I survive the day. I keep surviving them. Every day is the same, in the sense that every day is something completely different, without rhyme or reason. The only exception, is Tuesdays. For a never-to-be-understood-by-me reason, Tuesdays are my BIG days. Everything happens on Tuesdays. It all comes together or it all falls apart on a Tuesday. Last week, it all fell apart. Today, it all came together. I want to tell you all about it, but first…
I should tell you about my secret life…
There are so many things that you already know about me, but there are some others you probably don’t know. I guess it’s time I told you about them.
Things you probably know:
- I’m a Puerto Rican/Italian married to a Mexican. We’re mad and loud. My husband thinks tortillas go with everything, even hotdogs!
- I have five kids – 14, 10, 4, 4, & 4 years-old.
- I drive a mini-van. I don’t know that I’ll ever embrace that. I try to. I’d rather be cruisin’ in a Hennessey Venom GT!
- I cook a lot because my kids eat a lot.
- I talk with my hands.
- I don’t have a problem posting pics of me looking like ICK, because I can sometimes clean up nicely.
Things you might know:
- I’m super social. (Like, just hang up on me and tell me your phone died, because I don’t stop talking.)
- I always have a new idea.
- I’m incapable of going fan-girl over some celebrity. It’s not that I can’t admire someone’s work, prestige, etc., but I spent most of my childhood being told or looked at as if I would never “amount to anything.” I built up thick-skin and gained a priceless wisdom. First, no one in this world can take away my worth. Second, just because someone is big, it doesn’t make me little. I say what’s up to Wesley, the homeless guy, the same way I would say what’s up to Michelle Obama. Really, that’s just me. It might be an honor to be in someone’s presence (or even in their circle) but I don’t doubt that I’m just as worthy. For the record, so are you!
- I’m super philosophical.
- I’m incredibly positive. I can trick myself into seeing the bright side of the worst situations. It’s how I cope.
- The triplets were super premature. They have Autism. They are verbal. They are all incredibly different. They changed my life and especially the way I parent. They made me a better person.
- I’m always right, no?
Things you probably don’t know:
- The last grade I graduated from was Kindergarten. Yet, I’ve been studying all my life. I taught at Berkeley. None of this is what you might think, but it’s probably close.
- I was in Foster Homes.
- I was an emancipated minor.
- I was a Cheerleader and ran for Student Body President in High School.
- I want to leave my footprints, hand prints, voice, and legacy in this world.
- I hate my hair. When I was little, kids called me Medussa.
- I never met my father. I never tried to find him. I’ve always been indifferent about it. I’ve never taken it personally.
- When I was younger, I dreamed of being a Mommy AND a PTA President. I did both. I like the mommy part! PTA President? Uh, never again!
- I go to school full-time. I study Psychology. It’s just because I want to. I don’t plan on “working” in the field.
- I’m a Real Estate Broker and have been working on launching an Office in Southern California, in partnership with a close friend.
- I’ve been slowly and inconspicuously working on a Non Profit I founded, the Kaitlyn Gonzalez Foundation.
- I’m launching a new niche site, ShesTechy.com
- I believe EVERYTHING is possible.
- I believe, I CAN. I know, I CAN.
- There are therapists working with the triplets, in my home, Monday – Friday, for many hours each day. They are all wonderful, don’t get me wrong. I wouldn’t change anything because it’s for the benefit of my children. But most days, I feel like a guest in my own home.
- I spend 15-20 hours per week just dealing with administrative type things regarding my children and their difabilities.
- Pedro is brilliant. There’s nothing I’d change about him. He was recently diagnosed with ADHD. No surprise there, but it’s another bullet-point on the list of things I need to deal with NOW, before the school year ends.
- I have to move. I don’t know where we’re moving. I’d like to stay in the East Bay.
- Our family got some very sad news recently. Prayers are welcome.
- I say bad words in real life.
- I write poems everyday. I usually throw them out. Remind me not to do that anymore!
- All of my five children were born in emergency C-Sections.
- Most of the time, I judge the success of my day based on what time in the day I managed to get a bra on.
- I didn’t grow up speaking Spanish. I didn’t grow up speaking Italian. English was my first language. I was kind of bitter about that.
- I mostly learned Spanish so I could effectively rat out my husband to my mother-in-law. I’m a tattle tale!
- It’s not BS. I am genuinely and ridiculously excited about the success of my friends and even strangers.
- My life’s dream? I Aspire to Inspire!
I often forget what I was saying. What was this post about? Oh! I wanted to tell you about my day. Check it out, HERE.
By: Alicia Gonzalez