I’m a Soccer Mom Team Manager. I’ve gone from Soccer Mom to absent Soccer Mom and back to here we go again…
Over the many years my kids have been playing soccer, their skills have evolved, and so have mine! As a soccer mom, I’ve gone through stages.
- New Soccer Mom
- Snack Soccer Mom
- Lunatic Fan Soccer Mom
- A Strange Kind of Mascot-Like Soccer Mom
- Sidelines Wannabe Coach Soccer Mom
- This is Outrageous! I can’t afford THIS Soccer Mom
- Can’t you just ask someone else for a ride? Soccer Mom
Somewhere in the middle of evolving Soccer Mom, I became a PTA President for Antonio’s Elementary School
Did I ever tell you that I was a PTA President once, too? Yea. I’ll have to give you some more details about that in another post. For now, just imagine a year long of constant fights between very passionate parents, resulting in necessary Intervention by a licensed Psychologist. PTA President was no joke! It was nothing like I imagined it would be. There was racism and a group of parents fully integrated in the PTA who didn’t even have children in the school. The early-bird parents, as I like to call them, were parents with younger children, like not even in preschool yet, who chose to participate in PTA in hopes of molding the school into what they wanted it to be by the time their children would be attending. There were power trips, tears, secret meetings, and lots of fundraising.
When I was asked and voted to be the PTA President, I was excited. It was even on my bucket list! I think I believed that I’d feel like I was a better parent if I had the fancy good-mom titles to prove it!
Recently, I’ve gone back to Team Manager Soccer Mom for TWO Teams!
I’m not going to lie. I like the Titles, but not for the reasons you might think. It doesn’t make me better than anyone else. In fact, a lot of people would question my willingness to take on more demanding and time-consuming projects. But the title, is kind of like having the ability to pull out a Red Card and quickly put an end to any exaggerated disagreements. You know, to squash it! I It’s much like the card we pull as moms, all the time. When we’ve had it with one of our kids behavior and are not going to play negotiations with them, we pull out our trump card; Because I’m the Mom! There you have it.
I love Soccer. I love being involved in my kids activities. It makes them happy and I see that. Not everyone has the time or desire to take on a responsibility like that. Personally, I feel like it IS my responsibility, or I’m doomed to the title of hypocrite! I always tell my kids that the reason I work so hard to be able to work from home is so that I can do more with them. I want to better support the things they are involved in. It’s a blessing. I know a lot of good moms who would do anything for the opportunity to be home with their children. Not everyone can. So, I try to take advantage of that very special gift. It’s not easy, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I’m the type of person who believes in doing the work, especially if you have the title. Now I’m preparing to do whatever it takes to makes these teams even more cohesive, infused with mutual respect among parents, and a shared desire to help these kids score as many goals as they can. I want to inspire my own kids and their teammates to make goals on the field and in life. I want to support them in reaching those goals. I want to squash parental negativity and micromanagement during games. Of course, I don’t want the parents to feel “managed” neither. We’re all just a bunch of parents trying to do right by our kids.
Having the title doesn’t make me a better parent. Evolving does! Being a team player does. Listening does. I have very philosophical thoughts about my role as Team Manager, this time around. I feel like it’s time to take all the parenting skills I’ve picked up over the years, and put them to work, for the good of the team.
I’m even hoping you’ll all chime in with your own experiences over the years. It doesn’t have to be Soccer. I’d love to hear about what you have liked and disliked about team sports your children have been in. What are the things you’ve loved? What are the things that made you leave or consider leaving. What teams made you feel more united? This time, because I’m evolved, it’s all about making everyone on the team happy, (and winning would be awesome, too!) including the devoted parents. So, before the formal announcement is made to the teams, I’m hoping you’ll have some great feedback to consider. I think the BEST thing I can do as my first act as Team Manager is to LISTEN.
I can’t wait to hear what ya’ll have to say!
By: Alicia Gonzalez